As many of you know I had surgery at the beginning of December. I had a much better Dr. this time and she was actually my OBGYN. I went in for a lot of pain on my left side and it turned out to be 2 cysts on my ovary. She had a plan and we scheduled the surgery.
I have to say that this time it was such a better experience!! :) I was so thankful for that too. So just a little side note about the surgery center. I got there super early, and I was very hungry, a nurse came in who actually know from Kokomo to tell me it would be delayed a little because they were out of oxygen in the OR, lol. I wasn't mad at all either because we got a chance to catch up. :) I went in to the OR and I felt so safe and comfortable, I was soothed to sleep and then I woke up crying, lol. Another side note, at my last surgery the nurses were terrible and they had put medicine in my IV before I was even on the table, so I'm pretty sure I fell on the table, what a sight lol!!
The Dr. told Kyle everything went fine and he waited for me to get up. I woke up and it was pretty painful, but I didn't want to take the meds because I didn't want to be sick, so like any normal girl, I cried, haha! The nurses were once again great and so was Kyle. He even fed my jello so I wouldn't get sick. :)
I went home that afternoon and slept until 9, then woke up for short time and went back to sleep. I don't remember most of the night or if I talked to anyone, but it was a great sleep.
Sadly though during the night, my step grandma passed away. She was like my grandma and I loved her dearly. She will be missed by so many but we all love the thought of her dancing with Jesus and spending time with her husband and her family. :) This was a sad time and also a painful one for me, as I had to wear dress clothes that first week of recovery. All is well now though and my incisions are healing well.
This go round the incisions were much higher and they were super glued together. It seemed so odd but I can tell how much better they are healing this time. I went to the Dr. last week or so and she said it was a little more extensive than she was expecting so she wanted to start me on a shot called Lupron Depot. It would medically induce menopause, with all the stuff... I'm going to talk to a nurse more about it tomorrow hopefully, but we are thinking we are going to pass because of the side effects.
We are doing well and finally feeling back to normal which is a really good feeling to say the least!! :)
I hope you all had blessed Christmas and took time to remember the true meaning. We were especially blessed this year and we are so grateful that our family is so supportive of our decisions and we know we wouldn't be here without them all!
Tuesday, December 27, 2011
Saturday, November 19, 2011
Patience
I should really have titled this as : Patience or lack there of. That is exactly what I'm feeling right now, which seems crazy because its only been about 5 months since we started this process.
Today we had Thanksgiving with Kyles side of the family and it was so great being with everyone, but today was much harder than I expected or even thought actually. My favorite part of the day was when we were all in the living room and we were all laughing and playing with the boys. (our 4 year old nephew, 1 year old nephew, and 7 month old cousin) It was a blast and we were laughing so hard at times we couldn't catch our breath almost. There were parts of me that were so sad though, because I know it will be such a long time before I can do that with our kids. It made me long for those kids so much, it made my heart hurt. I'm tearing up as I write this right now. I wish it was tomorrow that I could meet our children, hug them, and give them sweet kisses all over their faces.
I know that God makes us wait sometimes and this is one of those times. He still has big plans while we wait, but boy is it hard. I was telling Kyle on the way home, its so hard because even though we are on the waiting list, we have no idea who our children are going to be. When you're pregnant its so different, you know they are growing, moving, and that they are yours. Its such a different experience that not a lot of people can compare to. But, God will show us what this waiting time is for, and I can't wait. I know the wait will be so worth it too. I have to just keep reminding myself of that, and pray even more for our children.
A couple other quick updates:
We got our appointment from USCIS to get our finger prints. :) That will be Dec. 9th at 2pm. WOO HOO!! After we get accepted by them, it will all be sent to Ethiopia.
I have been in pain for the last couple weeks and I have been brushing it off, but my sister in law insisted I go see someone. I'm glad she did, because we found out on Tuesday that I have 2 cysts on my ovary and its causing a lot more issues than my past cyst and A LOT more pain. With that being said, I have to have surgery AGAIN... Dec, 5th. I'm hoping it comes quickly so I can be relieved from the pain. It's nice knowing the surgery I'm going into because I'm not nervous, but I am dreading the recovery because it was not fun. But, we won't have as many Dr. bills this time around because we have met our deductible and out of pocket. YAY God!! :)
Well friends, I hope you have a blessed weekend! Love you all and appreciate all the prayers, comments, and thoughts!
Today we had Thanksgiving with Kyles side of the family and it was so great being with everyone, but today was much harder than I expected or even thought actually. My favorite part of the day was when we were all in the living room and we were all laughing and playing with the boys. (our 4 year old nephew, 1 year old nephew, and 7 month old cousin) It was a blast and we were laughing so hard at times we couldn't catch our breath almost. There were parts of me that were so sad though, because I know it will be such a long time before I can do that with our kids. It made me long for those kids so much, it made my heart hurt. I'm tearing up as I write this right now. I wish it was tomorrow that I could meet our children, hug them, and give them sweet kisses all over their faces.
I know that God makes us wait sometimes and this is one of those times. He still has big plans while we wait, but boy is it hard. I was telling Kyle on the way home, its so hard because even though we are on the waiting list, we have no idea who our children are going to be. When you're pregnant its so different, you know they are growing, moving, and that they are yours. Its such a different experience that not a lot of people can compare to. But, God will show us what this waiting time is for, and I can't wait. I know the wait will be so worth it too. I have to just keep reminding myself of that, and pray even more for our children.
A couple other quick updates:
We got our appointment from USCIS to get our finger prints. :) That will be Dec. 9th at 2pm. WOO HOO!! After we get accepted by them, it will all be sent to Ethiopia.
I have been in pain for the last couple weeks and I have been brushing it off, but my sister in law insisted I go see someone. I'm glad she did, because we found out on Tuesday that I have 2 cysts on my ovary and its causing a lot more issues than my past cyst and A LOT more pain. With that being said, I have to have surgery AGAIN... Dec, 5th. I'm hoping it comes quickly so I can be relieved from the pain. It's nice knowing the surgery I'm going into because I'm not nervous, but I am dreading the recovery because it was not fun. But, we won't have as many Dr. bills this time around because we have met our deductible and out of pocket. YAY God!! :)
Well friends, I hope you have a blessed weekend! Love you all and appreciate all the prayers, comments, and thoughts!
Monday, November 7, 2011
Waiting List
We have officially been on the waiting list for two weeks! :) YAY!!!!
We are on 5 different lists:
Infant Girl: 38
Infant Boy: 23
Toddler Girl: 23
Toddler Boy: 15
Siblings: 18
I've been so excited about this, and I kept thinking about how I can't wait to update everytime we move up the list. But, then I got to thinking... people who get pregnant get to do a big reveal about the gender and I have always wanted to do something like that. So, with that being said, I will tell you we are now 17 on the siblings, but that's about it. I may throw out some numbers every once in awhile, but I won't put labels on them and they will not be in the same order. Now, my mom isn't too thrilled about this, because she wants to know, but we want it to be exciting too. So, whenever we get a referral and except it, we are going to throw a gender party with at least family and have everyone guess and then reveal it! This may sound corny, but I cannot wait to do this. :)
Since we got on the waiting list we have still been throwing around the thought of one or two. We have gotten lots of feedback from family and friends, but if anyone has anything else to add, we would love to hear it. I read a quote on pinterest the other day that said "do you pray about it, as much as you talk about it?" It was such a perfect time for me to read that too, so Kyle and I have been praying every night for wisdom and guidance on what to do. We know that we can do the up front cost everything, but we want to make sure that they will have the best lives that we can give them.
I've been reading all kinds of blogs today, and it was such a good reminder on some of them that its not about us, but it's about the kids. Even though we may need to give up some material things and things we like to do on an every week basis, we will be giving a child(ren) a loving home. That's what is important.
We are excited to keep going down this road and look forward to what the Lord is going to be revealing to us.
We are on 5 different lists:
Infant Girl: 38
Infant Boy: 23
Toddler Girl: 23
Toddler Boy: 15
Siblings: 18
I've been so excited about this, and I kept thinking about how I can't wait to update everytime we move up the list. But, then I got to thinking... people who get pregnant get to do a big reveal about the gender and I have always wanted to do something like that. So, with that being said, I will tell you we are now 17 on the siblings, but that's about it. I may throw out some numbers every once in awhile, but I won't put labels on them and they will not be in the same order. Now, my mom isn't too thrilled about this, because she wants to know, but we want it to be exciting too. So, whenever we get a referral and except it, we are going to throw a gender party with at least family and have everyone guess and then reveal it! This may sound corny, but I cannot wait to do this. :)
Since we got on the waiting list we have still been throwing around the thought of one or two. We have gotten lots of feedback from family and friends, but if anyone has anything else to add, we would love to hear it. I read a quote on pinterest the other day that said "do you pray about it, as much as you talk about it?" It was such a perfect time for me to read that too, so Kyle and I have been praying every night for wisdom and guidance on what to do. We know that we can do the up front cost everything, but we want to make sure that they will have the best lives that we can give them.
I've been reading all kinds of blogs today, and it was such a good reminder on some of them that its not about us, but it's about the kids. Even though we may need to give up some material things and things we like to do on an every week basis, we will be giving a child(ren) a loving home. That's what is important.
We are excited to keep going down this road and look forward to what the Lord is going to be revealing to us.
Sunday, October 23, 2011
We are Blessed
Well, I'm sure most of you know already from Facebook but just in case you don't know... we won our Ordinary Hero Grant Contest!!! So going to our agency just from the contest will be: $1,165!!! We could not have done it without you guys, we are so blessed by so many people who purchased something for themselves, or the kiddos over in Africa. Thank you thank you thank you!!! Just a side note, if you did purchase something and don't remember seeing my name anywhere, let me know! That way we can add it our account and you will get a nice thank you note from us :)You can still purchase items for yourself or for others at any time. Just make sure you click my Chaffee, Megan next to affiliate name under the drop box. Please excuse the time it has taken to get my Thank You's out, I'm wanting to make something super cute and use some creativity, because well lets be honest, I love to! From the bottom of my heart THANK YOU!!! for all your help.
A week or so after we found out we won, I got a card in the mail from a friend in Kentucky. His wife had asked for our address and I didn't think much of it. I opened the sweetest note from my friend and his wife and a check they had felt called to give. We are forever grateful for this and their prayers. It is amazing to see how God works in and through people in times like these. I was practically in tears when I told Kyle, we were just in shock of how generous 2 people could be. So THANK YOU Grant and Jennifer!!!
Today is a great day: I have officially finished the classes and answered the questions of some classes we had to take before getting on the waiting list. Kyle I think is almost finished. We will email those and our preference list to our coordinator and we will officially be on the waiting list tomorrow! YAY!!!!! We are so excited :)
We had a great service at church today and it was all about faith. Our pastor gave us 5"steps" he thought were part of having faith in any given situation. He said, you won't go through every single one every time, but a lot of the times. Here are the 5 steps and some verses that really stuck out to me and made it clear in my heart and mind that we are following God's leading's and not our own.
Dream
Decision James 1:22 But don’t just listen to God’s word. You must do what it says. Otherwise, you are only fooling yourselves.
Delay Habakkuk 2:3 But these things I plan won't happen right away. Slowly, steadily, surely, the time approaches when the vision will be fulfilled. If it seems slow, do not despair, for these things will surely come to pass. Just be patient! They will not be overdue a single day! (Could this be anymore true to adoptive parents going through this process?!)
Dead Ends
Deliverance
This message really spoke to Kyle and I with everything we are going through. We almost didn't go to church this morning, and man am I glad we did!!
This month we are going through a campaign at our church and everyday I get an email with a prayer and sometimes a verse. This mornings was amazing and I will leave on this note for you ;)
James 1:27 says, “Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.” Lord, may we be and become a church that practices a pure and faultless religion, in which we
look after the orphans and widows in our city and world. Amen.
A week or so after we found out we won, I got a card in the mail from a friend in Kentucky. His wife had asked for our address and I didn't think much of it. I opened the sweetest note from my friend and his wife and a check they had felt called to give. We are forever grateful for this and their prayers. It is amazing to see how God works in and through people in times like these. I was practically in tears when I told Kyle, we were just in shock of how generous 2 people could be. So THANK YOU Grant and Jennifer!!!
Today is a great day: I have officially finished the classes and answered the questions of some classes we had to take before getting on the waiting list. Kyle I think is almost finished. We will email those and our preference list to our coordinator and we will officially be on the waiting list tomorrow! YAY!!!!! We are so excited :)
We had a great service at church today and it was all about faith. Our pastor gave us 5"steps" he thought were part of having faith in any given situation. He said, you won't go through every single one every time, but a lot of the times. Here are the 5 steps and some verses that really stuck out to me and made it clear in my heart and mind that we are following God's leading's and not our own.
Dream
Decision James 1:22 But don’t just listen to God’s word. You must do what it says. Otherwise, you are only fooling yourselves.
Delay Habakkuk 2:3 But these things I plan won't happen right away. Slowly, steadily, surely, the time approaches when the vision will be fulfilled. If it seems slow, do not despair, for these things will surely come to pass. Just be patient! They will not be overdue a single day! (Could this be anymore true to adoptive parents going through this process?!)
Dead Ends
Deliverance
This message really spoke to Kyle and I with everything we are going through. We almost didn't go to church this morning, and man am I glad we did!!
This month we are going through a campaign at our church and everyday I get an email with a prayer and sometimes a verse. This mornings was amazing and I will leave on this note for you ;)
Define Or•phan
- a child who has lost both parents through death, or, less commonly, one parent.
James 1:27 says, “Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.” Lord, may we be and become a church that practices a pure and faultless religion, in which we
look after the orphans and widows in our city and world. Amen.
Wednesday, October 19, 2011
Finished Dossier
This will be a brief update. :)
We sent in our dossier on Friday, and I'm hoping IAN has received today. YAY!! We are done, well almost. I found out we have a couple more classes to take through IAN and then we will be on the waiting list. We will be on 5 different waiting list: baby boy and girl, toddler boy and girl, and siblings. I talked to our agency yesterday about the sibling thing and how they knew they would be true siblings etc. She said that they have to be brought into together with the same parent(s). So, on our home study report we put we would accept up to age 3. We were very happy with this decision until yesterday. The likely hood of 2 children under the age of 3 really limits us. So Kyle and I have now opened up to non-siblings.
You're probably thinking, whats the big deal? You will raise them as siblings anyway. In that regard yes, we will and we don't care if they are true siblings or not. But, it of course costs more money. We aren't talking about thousands more, so it really isn't big deal at all, just another hurdle to jump over while we finish up this process, and begin to wait. We will remain on all the lists as of right now, because you never know when twins can be carried in through those doors ;) Ha, how fun would that be?! So crazy busy, but so much fun too.
We are sending in our USCIS stuff shortly as well. This is the US government giving us permission to adopt an orphan or two. This process takes quite awhile, but IAN is super and they will let us be in the waiting lists before that part is finished.
Now that all the paperwork is finished, I'm going to start some more :) I'm going to start applying for some grants and there is a lot more that goes into that than I originally thought. I wanted to apply to ShowHope by Halloween, but there is a lot of paperwork and documents that I want to really take my time on. So, I've decided to scratch that deadline and shoot for New Year's Eve. ShowHope was created by Steven Curtis Chapman and his wife Mary Beth. They have absolutely amazing hearts, and have such a neat story. If you don't know much about them, I would really do some research, or you can go to http://showhope.org/ If you guys know of any other places to apply for some grants, any info would be super helpful! :)
Well friends, I have lots to talk about, so I will post again soon. (hopefully) Have a great Wednesday and keep warm!
We sent in our dossier on Friday, and I'm hoping IAN has received today. YAY!! We are done, well almost. I found out we have a couple more classes to take through IAN and then we will be on the waiting list. We will be on 5 different waiting list: baby boy and girl, toddler boy and girl, and siblings. I talked to our agency yesterday about the sibling thing and how they knew they would be true siblings etc. She said that they have to be brought into together with the same parent(s). So, on our home study report we put we would accept up to age 3. We were very happy with this decision until yesterday. The likely hood of 2 children under the age of 3 really limits us. So Kyle and I have now opened up to non-siblings.
You're probably thinking, whats the big deal? You will raise them as siblings anyway. In that regard yes, we will and we don't care if they are true siblings or not. But, it of course costs more money. We aren't talking about thousands more, so it really isn't big deal at all, just another hurdle to jump over while we finish up this process, and begin to wait. We will remain on all the lists as of right now, because you never know when twins can be carried in through those doors ;) Ha, how fun would that be?! So crazy busy, but so much fun too.
We are sending in our USCIS stuff shortly as well. This is the US government giving us permission to adopt an orphan or two. This process takes quite awhile, but IAN is super and they will let us be in the waiting lists before that part is finished.
Now that all the paperwork is finished, I'm going to start some more :) I'm going to start applying for some grants and there is a lot more that goes into that than I originally thought. I wanted to apply to ShowHope by Halloween, but there is a lot of paperwork and documents that I want to really take my time on. So, I've decided to scratch that deadline and shoot for New Year's Eve. ShowHope was created by Steven Curtis Chapman and his wife Mary Beth. They have absolutely amazing hearts, and have such a neat story. If you don't know much about them, I would really do some research, or you can go to http://showhope.org/ If you guys know of any other places to apply for some grants, any info would be super helpful! :)
Well friends, I have lots to talk about, so I will post again soon. (hopefully) Have a great Wednesday and keep warm!
Friday, October 7, 2011
Foggy
Hi friends,
These past few mornings have been beautiful here, and there is a part in my drive that goes down a "hill." When I get to the bottom it has been pretty foggy. Don't worry it's not dangerous to be driving or anything, honestly its just beautiful. I actually love driving through it, its been one of my favorite parts of the drive lately. Along with the amazingly gorgeous leaves that are changing colors.
Lately I have been feeling like I've been in a fog... a fog of paperwork, a fog of Dr. appts, and a fog of busyness. I'm so happy to say that the fog has been lifting little by little and I couldn't be more excited. :) The fog of paperwork is almost done. We are so close to getting our dossier finished. The only issue right now, is our insurance company, but IAN has been super helpful with everything. We will have everything except 2 papers notarized and finished by tomorrow... can I get an AMEN!?!?! Our Dr. appts should be done too :) Yay!! I won't spend too much time on the Dr. thing, but my fertility Dr. wants to do surgery again, because she didn't do everything she wanted to the first time. We opted for no, and to fully believe that if we are supposed to bear our own child(ren) then God will make that happen. We are following Him with full force in this adoption. :) The fog of busyness may not be lifting too much, but I am so looking forward to this weekend with my little sisters, that I don't even care if we are "busy."
So, if you find yourself in a foggy place, just remember with time, it will lift and the sun will be shining in no time!
Have a lovely weekend friends!!
Also, don't forget: The Ordinary Hero deal ends on Sunday. If you can't buy now, but can later, that is fine. If we are the top seller by Sunday though, we could win an extra $500 toward our beautiful little child(ren). So go check it out if you have time...Love to all!!! ordinaryherostore.org
These past few mornings have been beautiful here, and there is a part in my drive that goes down a "hill." When I get to the bottom it has been pretty foggy. Don't worry it's not dangerous to be driving or anything, honestly its just beautiful. I actually love driving through it, its been one of my favorite parts of the drive lately. Along with the amazingly gorgeous leaves that are changing colors.
Lately I have been feeling like I've been in a fog... a fog of paperwork, a fog of Dr. appts, and a fog of busyness. I'm so happy to say that the fog has been lifting little by little and I couldn't be more excited. :) The fog of paperwork is almost done. We are so close to getting our dossier finished. The only issue right now, is our insurance company, but IAN has been super helpful with everything. We will have everything except 2 papers notarized and finished by tomorrow... can I get an AMEN!?!?! Our Dr. appts should be done too :) Yay!! I won't spend too much time on the Dr. thing, but my fertility Dr. wants to do surgery again, because she didn't do everything she wanted to the first time. We opted for no, and to fully believe that if we are supposed to bear our own child(ren) then God will make that happen. We are following Him with full force in this adoption. :) The fog of busyness may not be lifting too much, but I am so looking forward to this weekend with my little sisters, that I don't even care if we are "busy."
So, if you find yourself in a foggy place, just remember with time, it will lift and the sun will be shining in no time!
Have a lovely weekend friends!!
Also, don't forget: The Ordinary Hero deal ends on Sunday. If you can't buy now, but can later, that is fine. If we are the top seller by Sunday though, we could win an extra $500 toward our beautiful little child(ren). So go check it out if you have time...Love to all!!! ordinaryherostore.org
Wednesday, October 5, 2011
Stretched Thin...
Hi friends,
As many of you know I had surgery in August. I didn't particularly want this surgery, not because I was scared but because we knew we were planning to adopt and I knew how expensive this silly little surgery would be. We now almost every other day get a bill of some sort in the mail from this surgery. Now, if you have a kid and have bills from that, sure that's worth the money. If you have kids and have to pay for their medical bills, totally worth it, its your kiddo. But for me, personally to have a surgery that doesn't guarantee a pregnancy, that's not worth it. I wasn't going to die without this surgery. If they had guaranteed me a pregnancy or even planted a baby in there, sure that would have been worth it.
Now I sit here fretting and thinking about all these bills we have to pay on top of our adoption fees. Those adoption fees are totally worth it to me though... Giving a baby or two a home, this is going to be priceless. I wish I could tell all the Dr.'s and hospitals we will pay them when we feel like it. We have more important things to worry about it, our children. I'm going to give this one to God though, because right now I'm freaking out. I was just talking to my mother in law about this today and how we know God will provide and we just need to trust Him and believe that if He put this on our hearts it will happen. It's so easy to say and hear, but then seeing another bill, I lost it.
I'm going to do my best and replay our conversation over and over in my head and just pray, and try not to cry. That's really all I want to do right now too. I'm going to stay tough and believe that this is all in God's plan and He knows what He's doing even if we don't.
I feel like right now I am so stretched thin in being so busy with life... I need a break. We have been so busy these past few weekends, and I am looking forward to this weekend. We are watching our little 10 year old sisters and we are doing a craft for their room and the baby room. This will be so therapeutic for me this weekend, I cannot wait. These girls are awesome too, such big hearts, giggle at about everything their "bubby" does, and just like to hang out. :) I'm hoping the next couple weekends will be the same too, just hanging out and doing some stuff around the house or whatever we want.
You guys are probably thinking, wow Megan you have another thing coming when you have a kid or two... your life will never stop. You guys are so true to think that, and I honestly cannot wait for those moments. Will I complain about being tired and want to scream, oh I'm sure... but those times will be priceless!
Thanks for all your support everyone!
Just a reminder that if you buy this week from Ordinary Hero, (under the name Chaffee, Megan) we will be in the running for a grant towards our adoption. We will get 40% of your purchase price and be in the running for first place. These can make some great Christmas presents, or just some tees for yourself or the family. :) ordinaryherostore.org
As many of you know I had surgery in August. I didn't particularly want this surgery, not because I was scared but because we knew we were planning to adopt and I knew how expensive this silly little surgery would be. We now almost every other day get a bill of some sort in the mail from this surgery. Now, if you have a kid and have bills from that, sure that's worth the money. If you have kids and have to pay for their medical bills, totally worth it, its your kiddo. But for me, personally to have a surgery that doesn't guarantee a pregnancy, that's not worth it. I wasn't going to die without this surgery. If they had guaranteed me a pregnancy or even planted a baby in there, sure that would have been worth it.
Now I sit here fretting and thinking about all these bills we have to pay on top of our adoption fees. Those adoption fees are totally worth it to me though... Giving a baby or two a home, this is going to be priceless. I wish I could tell all the Dr.'s and hospitals we will pay them when we feel like it. We have more important things to worry about it, our children. I'm going to give this one to God though, because right now I'm freaking out. I was just talking to my mother in law about this today and how we know God will provide and we just need to trust Him and believe that if He put this on our hearts it will happen. It's so easy to say and hear, but then seeing another bill, I lost it.
I'm going to do my best and replay our conversation over and over in my head and just pray, and try not to cry. That's really all I want to do right now too. I'm going to stay tough and believe that this is all in God's plan and He knows what He's doing even if we don't.
I feel like right now I am so stretched thin in being so busy with life... I need a break. We have been so busy these past few weekends, and I am looking forward to this weekend. We are watching our little 10 year old sisters and we are doing a craft for their room and the baby room. This will be so therapeutic for me this weekend, I cannot wait. These girls are awesome too, such big hearts, giggle at about everything their "bubby" does, and just like to hang out. :) I'm hoping the next couple weekends will be the same too, just hanging out and doing some stuff around the house or whatever we want.
You guys are probably thinking, wow Megan you have another thing coming when you have a kid or two... your life will never stop. You guys are so true to think that, and I honestly cannot wait for those moments. Will I complain about being tired and want to scream, oh I'm sure... but those times will be priceless!
Thanks for all your support everyone!
Just a reminder that if you buy this week from Ordinary Hero, (under the name Chaffee, Megan) we will be in the running for a grant towards our adoption. We will get 40% of your purchase price and be in the running for first place. These can make some great Christmas presents, or just some tees for yourself or the family. :) ordinaryherostore.org
Saturday, October 1, 2011
Ordinary Hero
Hey all!!
I posted last week about how my mother-in-law found this great website to help us do some fundraising for our adoption process. I have officially signed us up, and I had my mom test it out for us ;) Thanks mom!!
It's very easy, and there are super cute items to purchase... There are shirts and accessories for all ages. If you buy any item 40% of the price will go towards our adoption process. All of the money will get saved up, when we decide to close it out, or we are needing some extra money for agency, the website will cut a check. The check goes straight to our agency to help us out. Pretty simple and what a great way to help people adopt and to make others aware of all the orphans out there in the world.
When you are checking out you will get to a line that says Affiliate Name... go over to the right, click the drop down box and find Chaffee, Megan. The things you purchase should get to you pretty quickly too, I found something I loved and told my mom about it, she ordered it on Tuesday I think, and I saw a flyer for Ordinary Hero on her table, so she got it already. :) Yay!!!
I encourage you not only to purchase something but to also look around the website. It is wonderful and I love the idea so much.
Here is the website for the store: http://www.ordinaryherostore.org/
There is also a link on my blog now, its on the right hand side near the top, and it says I'm Fundraising with Ordinary Hero. Just click the picture it will take you right there!
Thanks so much in advance!!
Saturday, September 24, 2011
Forests are losing trees
Well like most of my posts, we have been doing a lot of paperwork. I guess not as much on our end, but more on other peoples. We have been getting lots of paperwork notarized, certified, and double checked. We have now received Kyles birth certificate, our notarized back ground checks, our certified marriage license, 2 notarized reference letters, and one awful bank notarization.
We have a lot of our savings in Fidelity, which up until Monday has been wonderful. We received in the mail on Monday the paperwork we were waiting on. I was excited to see it in the mailbox only to be disappointed by what we saw. It was raining that day, and the paper actually got wet and the ink was starting to run, because they had put it in such a flimsy envelope. We opened it up, to find an expired notary... 2008!! Come on people, that's just insane! We also found they had spelled Kyles name wrong and added tons of extra information we didn't need. Now, I understand this is a process, but we had given specific directions and a copy of exactly what it was supposed to look like. Kyle had to call and cancel everything, because they weren't able to do what we asked, even when we called and talked to someone. We now have to wait, for another few days before going to Chase and asking for yet another notarized copy of our stuff. We LOVE Chase though, they are so so nice and so dependable.
I will be filling out some paperwork for our USCIS stuff, which is the US approving us to adopt an orphan(s) internationally. This usually takes 8-10 weeks, but we can be on the waiting list before that is turned it, so yay! We are staying hopeful this process will move along quickly, and I think we have reason to be hopeful because everything has gone pretty smoothly so far. :) My goal was to have everything in and be on the wait list by the end of the year, I think with how things are going so far, we will be on there in time.
My wonderful mother-in-law found a website where anyone can go and buy a t-shirt, a sweatshirt, bracelets, mugs, etc. All of the merchandise is adoption based, and its super cute. Here is the best part, for each item purchased, we would get 40% of the purchase toward our adoption. All the money goes straight to our agency, so it can help fund our process. Once I get all the instructions I need I will be posting again about details and to really promote this thing. If you want to look around the website is: ordinaryhero.org
Have a blessed weekend!
We have a lot of our savings in Fidelity, which up until Monday has been wonderful. We received in the mail on Monday the paperwork we were waiting on. I was excited to see it in the mailbox only to be disappointed by what we saw. It was raining that day, and the paper actually got wet and the ink was starting to run, because they had put it in such a flimsy envelope. We opened it up, to find an expired notary... 2008!! Come on people, that's just insane! We also found they had spelled Kyles name wrong and added tons of extra information we didn't need. Now, I understand this is a process, but we had given specific directions and a copy of exactly what it was supposed to look like. Kyle had to call and cancel everything, because they weren't able to do what we asked, even when we called and talked to someone. We now have to wait, for another few days before going to Chase and asking for yet another notarized copy of our stuff. We LOVE Chase though, they are so so nice and so dependable.
I will be filling out some paperwork for our USCIS stuff, which is the US approving us to adopt an orphan(s) internationally. This usually takes 8-10 weeks, but we can be on the waiting list before that is turned it, so yay! We are staying hopeful this process will move along quickly, and I think we have reason to be hopeful because everything has gone pretty smoothly so far. :) My goal was to have everything in and be on the wait list by the end of the year, I think with how things are going so far, we will be on there in time.
My wonderful mother-in-law found a website where anyone can go and buy a t-shirt, a sweatshirt, bracelets, mugs, etc. All of the merchandise is adoption based, and its super cute. Here is the best part, for each item purchased, we would get 40% of the purchase toward our adoption. All the money goes straight to our agency, so it can help fund our process. Once I get all the instructions I need I will be posting again about details and to really promote this thing. If you want to look around the website is: ordinaryhero.org
Have a blessed weekend!
Thursday, September 15, 2011
Decisions Decisions
So tons has happened since last week, and most of it for the good. Yay!!
On Sunday we celebrated our nephews 1st Birthday! I made some cake pops, and I won't lie, they were pretty stinkin cute! I will post a picture on the bottom of the page tonight. He was adorable as always and his big brother helped him open all of his presents, so cute! On Monday Kyle and I celebrated our 2 year anniversary. How fun?! I can't believe it's been 2 years already! It feels like we have been together forever and we are best friends who will never grown apart.
On Saturday afternoon we had our home study and it went great. Our social worker is super sweet and we got along with her very well. She has adopted 3 kids of her own, so it was great to be able to relate. Everything went very smoothly, and she asked us a question that I had thrown out to Kyle before, and he thought I was nuts. She asked us if we would be open to more than one child. Kyle and I looked at each other and I of course smiled huge, and I could see it in his eyes. He was open to it. We of course asked some questions about it and what that meant, that sort of thing. She said here's what could happen, if you say you are only open to one and you go to Ethiopia and find out the baby has a sibling, and you can't bear the thought of breaking them apart, you will have to stay in Ethiopia longer and get some more paperwork done. Or, you could say you're open to two and not have that worry, but you don't have to accept 2, it is your choice. So, we are open to 2 and we are open to the fact that God may be calling us to siblings. We shall see with time thought. Our agency was very open to this too, and she said we can still put a lot of boundaries on it, or not a lot. It is all in our ballpark. So we are open to siblings, no older than 4 and we would still prefer one of them be baby... but how cool would it be with twins!?! We may be nuts ;)
Our dossier process is still moving along, slowly but surely and I will take that. :) I got my birth certificate in the mail yesterday, which was shocking because mine was the one I was freaking out about and I ordered at least a week later than Kyles. We are still waiting on Kyles, but I'm not stressing about it. It will get done, and there's only so much I can honestly do anyway. Hopefully next weekend I can really sit down and go through what we still need to get done. From my memory, it isn't too much more!!! :)
This weekend we are going to St. Joseph MI where Kyle and I got married. We are going with his mom, dad, the 2 girls, his sister, brother-in-law, and their two boys. We have been looking forward to this all summer, and I cannot explain how excited I am to get away and enjoy each others company. His mom and sister are such joys to talk to, and I love just watching everyone interact with each other. Sometimes I just sit back and watch them, and it will literally bring tears to my eyes because I see how much love they all have for each other. How did I get so blessed with in-laws like that?!
In my last update I had mentioned not wanting to really take any medicine to have our own children. Kyle and I had talked about it and completely agreed. To help us know we made the right decision, I called the Dr. to see how much and what she wanted me to take. She said they would be injections, and she would want to go straight to an IUI. With that entails, blood work, 2 ultra sounds, and tests for Kyle. Also with that is a lot of money out of our pockets because our insurance won't cover any of it, and to me it's still a question mark. It is only 30% chance that it would work, and those odds aren't in our favor. We are open to taking a pill, but it would only be a couple months until my endometriosis would come back. As I write this paragraph, I have a smile on my face, because there aren't questions anymore, there is no gray area.... its black and white now and I can't tell you guys how thankful I am for that. Every month was disappointment, I was constantly reminded that I wasn't going to get the chance to be a mommy... but now I am to maybe two beautiful Ethiopian children. I cannot wait for those moments of seeing their picture, getting to meet them, and just touching them.
Thank you all for the support and knowing people are out there reading, it is much appreciated and I love posting about our journey.
On Sunday we celebrated our nephews 1st Birthday! I made some cake pops, and I won't lie, they were pretty stinkin cute! I will post a picture on the bottom of the page tonight. He was adorable as always and his big brother helped him open all of his presents, so cute! On Monday Kyle and I celebrated our 2 year anniversary. How fun?! I can't believe it's been 2 years already! It feels like we have been together forever and we are best friends who will never grown apart.
On Saturday afternoon we had our home study and it went great. Our social worker is super sweet and we got along with her very well. She has adopted 3 kids of her own, so it was great to be able to relate. Everything went very smoothly, and she asked us a question that I had thrown out to Kyle before, and he thought I was nuts. She asked us if we would be open to more than one child. Kyle and I looked at each other and I of course smiled huge, and I could see it in his eyes. He was open to it. We of course asked some questions about it and what that meant, that sort of thing. She said here's what could happen, if you say you are only open to one and you go to Ethiopia and find out the baby has a sibling, and you can't bear the thought of breaking them apart, you will have to stay in Ethiopia longer and get some more paperwork done. Or, you could say you're open to two and not have that worry, but you don't have to accept 2, it is your choice. So, we are open to 2 and we are open to the fact that God may be calling us to siblings. We shall see with time thought. Our agency was very open to this too, and she said we can still put a lot of boundaries on it, or not a lot. It is all in our ballpark. So we are open to siblings, no older than 4 and we would still prefer one of them be baby... but how cool would it be with twins!?! We may be nuts ;)
Our dossier process is still moving along, slowly but surely and I will take that. :) I got my birth certificate in the mail yesterday, which was shocking because mine was the one I was freaking out about and I ordered at least a week later than Kyles. We are still waiting on Kyles, but I'm not stressing about it. It will get done, and there's only so much I can honestly do anyway. Hopefully next weekend I can really sit down and go through what we still need to get done. From my memory, it isn't too much more!!! :)
This weekend we are going to St. Joseph MI where Kyle and I got married. We are going with his mom, dad, the 2 girls, his sister, brother-in-law, and their two boys. We have been looking forward to this all summer, and I cannot explain how excited I am to get away and enjoy each others company. His mom and sister are such joys to talk to, and I love just watching everyone interact with each other. Sometimes I just sit back and watch them, and it will literally bring tears to my eyes because I see how much love they all have for each other. How did I get so blessed with in-laws like that?!
In my last update I had mentioned not wanting to really take any medicine to have our own children. Kyle and I had talked about it and completely agreed. To help us know we made the right decision, I called the Dr. to see how much and what she wanted me to take. She said they would be injections, and she would want to go straight to an IUI. With that entails, blood work, 2 ultra sounds, and tests for Kyle. Also with that is a lot of money out of our pockets because our insurance won't cover any of it, and to me it's still a question mark. It is only 30% chance that it would work, and those odds aren't in our favor. We are open to taking a pill, but it would only be a couple months until my endometriosis would come back. As I write this paragraph, I have a smile on my face, because there aren't questions anymore, there is no gray area.... its black and white now and I can't tell you guys how thankful I am for that. Every month was disappointment, I was constantly reminded that I wasn't going to get the chance to be a mommy... but now I am to maybe two beautiful Ethiopian children. I cannot wait for those moments of seeing their picture, getting to meet them, and just touching them.
Thank you all for the support and knowing people are out there reading, it is much appreciated and I love posting about our journey.
Thursday, September 8, 2011
Bittersweet Day
It's been awhile but I was waiting for my post op appoitment with our fertility Dr. to update again.
This morning Kyle went to get his physical for our HomeStudy and to get another paper notarized by the Dr. office saying we are in good health to adopt. During the same time, I was at the post op appointment. Kyle's appointment went just fine, he just had to get a shot and needs some blood drawn tomorrow morning. The person who notarizes wasn't there today so that part wasn't finished, we were both pretty frustrated about it, but we will get it on Monday.
My appointment wasn't as much good news as Kyles. Pretty much she wants me to be on medicine and see me every month, and get a 3D ultrasoun to make sure my fibriods haven't returned. There are tons of things against at this point, more than I ever thought possible, so if you want more info I will share it, I just don't want to bore everyone with the details. What a tough decision this is... to take the medicine and fork out more money, or not take it and leave it up to God. I feel like so many times before going to the Dr. I was trying to take control of this situation in getting pregnant. Obviously my way didn't end the way I planned on, so now Kyle and I are choosing to trust God in this. It doesn't make it easy, but at the same time it does. It's bittersweet.
As we were at lunch I just got this rush of emotion flow over me, that I'm going to be letting so many people down by not taking the medicine. We have so many people praying for us and thinking of us, but I don't want them to be disappointed in us or our decisions. We are not giving up, but to make less stress on ourselves, we are going down this road of adoption. We haven't closed off the road of pregnancy, but it's just not the road we are heading down at the moment. I also have been realizing, as much as I wanted to be pregnant and to experience everything, I ultimately just want to be a mommy. Either way, from pregnancy or adoption I'm going to be a mommy and that's what is important to me. :)
As the day went on, we talked to many people, went many places, and there were lots of bumps along the way. I tried to keep my cool and not get frustrated, and as I did that I found so many opportunities to talk to people our what we are doing. How great is that!? I feel like God placed everyone we came into contact with today for a reason. There were so many people interested in what we were doing, they asked lots of questions, and were excited for us. The people at the bank told us to make sure we bring in the baby when we get the chance. I mean, how cool is that?!
Today was bittersweet, but the more I reflect on it, it was sweet. Thank you everyone for the prayers and thoughts today, it was much appreciated.
On a lighter note: We have our HomeStudy on Saturday morning!! So quick, yay God! I will fill you in how it went probably next week. We are celebrating our nephews 1st birthday this Sunday and our anniversary on Monday. I love September!!!
This morning Kyle went to get his physical for our HomeStudy and to get another paper notarized by the Dr. office saying we are in good health to adopt. During the same time, I was at the post op appointment. Kyle's appointment went just fine, he just had to get a shot and needs some blood drawn tomorrow morning. The person who notarizes wasn't there today so that part wasn't finished, we were both pretty frustrated about it, but we will get it on Monday.
My appointment wasn't as much good news as Kyles. Pretty much she wants me to be on medicine and see me every month, and get a 3D ultrasoun to make sure my fibriods haven't returned. There are tons of things against at this point, more than I ever thought possible, so if you want more info I will share it, I just don't want to bore everyone with the details. What a tough decision this is... to take the medicine and fork out more money, or not take it and leave it up to God. I feel like so many times before going to the Dr. I was trying to take control of this situation in getting pregnant. Obviously my way didn't end the way I planned on, so now Kyle and I are choosing to trust God in this. It doesn't make it easy, but at the same time it does. It's bittersweet.
As we were at lunch I just got this rush of emotion flow over me, that I'm going to be letting so many people down by not taking the medicine. We have so many people praying for us and thinking of us, but I don't want them to be disappointed in us or our decisions. We are not giving up, but to make less stress on ourselves, we are going down this road of adoption. We haven't closed off the road of pregnancy, but it's just not the road we are heading down at the moment. I also have been realizing, as much as I wanted to be pregnant and to experience everything, I ultimately just want to be a mommy. Either way, from pregnancy or adoption I'm going to be a mommy and that's what is important to me. :)
As the day went on, we talked to many people, went many places, and there were lots of bumps along the way. I tried to keep my cool and not get frustrated, and as I did that I found so many opportunities to talk to people our what we are doing. How great is that!? I feel like God placed everyone we came into contact with today for a reason. There were so many people interested in what we were doing, they asked lots of questions, and were excited for us. The people at the bank told us to make sure we bring in the baby when we get the chance. I mean, how cool is that?!
Today was bittersweet, but the more I reflect on it, it was sweet. Thank you everyone for the prayers and thoughts today, it was much appreciated.
On a lighter note: We have our HomeStudy on Saturday morning!! So quick, yay God! I will fill you in how it went probably next week. We are celebrating our nephews 1st birthday this Sunday and our anniversary on Monday. I love September!!!
Wednesday, August 31, 2011
Healing
Like always, I've been pretty busy, and tired lately from the healing process after the surgery. My work was wonderful last week and with a Dr.'s note, I was able to do some admin work around our center so I could heal completely, I was so thankful for that! It helped a lot and I was reminded how much I love admin work and seeing my kiddos. I am still healing, and there is still some soreness and pain after work especially, but overall, I'm feeling wonderful.
A little update on our paperwork: We sent in our application the day after my surgery, and received our dossier on Tuesday. Wow, talk about some paperwork and work in general for that! Every piece of paper has to be notarized and certified, it makes it espcially diffucult when we aren't the ones signing most of the paperwork, but the more I call around, the more I'm finding companies have their own notary, yay God!! Yesterday I sent in our homestudy paperwork and our last reference for the homestudy. Hopefully they will get that soon and we can start scheduling dates for them to come to our house :)
I had my spazout moment on Sunday, where I was overwhelmed with paperwork and frustrated, that I couldn't just get my birth certificate easier. I was venting to Kyle about how frustrating it is, that people just get pregnant, and they don't have to apply for anything, or prove that they are going to be good parents, but we do. We talked about a lot of things in that car ride, and we are both so sure that God isn't giving us more than we can handle.
Even this morning, we were talking about whether I would go back on medicine to help us have our own children, and we decided no. I know that may seem crazy, but for this past year, we have or should I say "I" have been trying to control this situation of bearing our own children. We decided its up to God, and maybe we aren't supposed to have our own, but we have the hearts for adoption. It is God's will, and as tough as it may be sometimes, He has a plan much bigger than we can see :) I'm excited and scared about that at the same time.
This has been a healing week for me, and I'm thankful for it. It has been hard times, and I've cried, and I've been excited. I can't wait to get this paperwork going, and see where this path takes us.
Love to all!!
A little update on our paperwork: We sent in our application the day after my surgery, and received our dossier on Tuesday. Wow, talk about some paperwork and work in general for that! Every piece of paper has to be notarized and certified, it makes it espcially diffucult when we aren't the ones signing most of the paperwork, but the more I call around, the more I'm finding companies have their own notary, yay God!! Yesterday I sent in our homestudy paperwork and our last reference for the homestudy. Hopefully they will get that soon and we can start scheduling dates for them to come to our house :)
I had my spazout moment on Sunday, where I was overwhelmed with paperwork and frustrated, that I couldn't just get my birth certificate easier. I was venting to Kyle about how frustrating it is, that people just get pregnant, and they don't have to apply for anything, or prove that they are going to be good parents, but we do. We talked about a lot of things in that car ride, and we are both so sure that God isn't giving us more than we can handle.
Even this morning, we were talking about whether I would go back on medicine to help us have our own children, and we decided no. I know that may seem crazy, but for this past year, we have or should I say "I" have been trying to control this situation of bearing our own children. We decided its up to God, and maybe we aren't supposed to have our own, but we have the hearts for adoption. It is God's will, and as tough as it may be sometimes, He has a plan much bigger than we can see :) I'm excited and scared about that at the same time.
This has been a healing week for me, and I'm thankful for it. It has been hard times, and I've cried, and I've been excited. I can't wait to get this paperwork going, and see where this path takes us.
Love to all!!
Tuesday, August 23, 2011
The Love of Family
So I said I would update about a lovely conversation I had with my mother in law, Sandy. It was Saturday afternoon and I was feeling tired and honestly defeated about the information we got from the Dr. On Friday I had a great attitude about everything, but Saturday was just an off day I guess. Sandy called to check on me and see how I was feeling. She was telling me that she had done some research and found that a lot of people end up getting pregnant with only one tube and one ovary working. It was really nice to hear this stuff, because I hadn't done research and was feeling like it was impossible.
I was telling her how I just found out one of my best friends told me she was pregnant two nights before, and how excited I was about it!! :) She said I'm so sorry that you have to keep hearing about other people getting pregnant, and for some reason it's not you...yet. She had wise words though: I know how much I love my kids and I would never want to hurt them, and God loves you so much more and He isn't doing this to hurt you Megan. Maybe this is His way to remind you, that your turn will come and not to give up.
We continued to talk about things and how we both agree this will be a true miracle by God if we do end up pregnant, but she didn't end there. She said, even if you don't have your own and I so hope you do, you and Kyle are adopting. Honestly, there aren't many people your age that would do that.
It was such a good reminder, that God has placed this adoption on our hearts for a reason and He has a much bigger plan than any of us can see or even fathom. It was also a great reminder that our family and our friends are so supportive of what we are choosing to do.
So, thank you Sandy for your sweet words and your kind heart. Kyle and I have a great influence from you and Steve and we couldn't be more thankful for you both.
On Sunday night Kyle and I were searching around on Netflix and found a really neat documentary that we wanted to watch. It's called "God Grew Tired of Us." I will admit, I was really tired and thought I wouldn't be real into it, but boy was I shocked!!! This was probably the most amazing thing I had watched. It was about a group of boys called, The Lost Boys of Sudan. This group of boys, had to flee their beautiful and lush country because of a war. They fled to Ethiopia, but when their government went under, they had to flee again. They ended up in Kenya with not nearly as many boys as they had started out with.
They started their own village and they were all like brothers. There is an organization that brings some of the boys to the US to live here and to find jobs and give them opportunities. I won't go into too many details, but they follow 3 young men and the hearts of these guys were amazing. They would work 2 or 3 jobs and would send a lot of their money back to their village, or their family. They struggled with things in the US, like how rude people were, how they didn't get to see each other nearly as much as they'd like, and why we celebrate Christmas the way we do.
I laughed and I cried, and it was so moving and really made me think. At the end of it, Kyle and I looked at each other and wanted to adopt the young men in the documentary. It is very clear to us, that we are following God's leading right now and being obedient about the adoption process. It also made me think of how important it's going to be to spend good quality time with my family that we will soon have.
Another happy note, we will be sending in our Homestudy paperwork on Monday, and we got our Dossier yesterday. It is a lot of notarizing of papers and lots of typing, but I plan on being very diligent and getting it done quickly.
Sorry about the long post, but thanks for reading!! I am very tired from work today, so I'm going to rest and make some dinner.
I was telling her how I just found out one of my best friends told me she was pregnant two nights before, and how excited I was about it!! :) She said I'm so sorry that you have to keep hearing about other people getting pregnant, and for some reason it's not you...yet. She had wise words though: I know how much I love my kids and I would never want to hurt them, and God loves you so much more and He isn't doing this to hurt you Megan. Maybe this is His way to remind you, that your turn will come and not to give up.
We continued to talk about things and how we both agree this will be a true miracle by God if we do end up pregnant, but she didn't end there. She said, even if you don't have your own and I so hope you do, you and Kyle are adopting. Honestly, there aren't many people your age that would do that.
It was such a good reminder, that God has placed this adoption on our hearts for a reason and He has a much bigger plan than any of us can see or even fathom. It was also a great reminder that our family and our friends are so supportive of what we are choosing to do.
So, thank you Sandy for your sweet words and your kind heart. Kyle and I have a great influence from you and Steve and we couldn't be more thankful for you both.
On Sunday night Kyle and I were searching around on Netflix and found a really neat documentary that we wanted to watch. It's called "God Grew Tired of Us." I will admit, I was really tired and thought I wouldn't be real into it, but boy was I shocked!!! This was probably the most amazing thing I had watched. It was about a group of boys called, The Lost Boys of Sudan. This group of boys, had to flee their beautiful and lush country because of a war. They fled to Ethiopia, but when their government went under, they had to flee again. They ended up in Kenya with not nearly as many boys as they had started out with.
They started their own village and they were all like brothers. There is an organization that brings some of the boys to the US to live here and to find jobs and give them opportunities. I won't go into too many details, but they follow 3 young men and the hearts of these guys were amazing. They would work 2 or 3 jobs and would send a lot of their money back to their village, or their family. They struggled with things in the US, like how rude people were, how they didn't get to see each other nearly as much as they'd like, and why we celebrate Christmas the way we do.
I laughed and I cried, and it was so moving and really made me think. At the end of it, Kyle and I looked at each other and wanted to adopt the young men in the documentary. It is very clear to us, that we are following God's leading right now and being obedient about the adoption process. It also made me think of how important it's going to be to spend good quality time with my family that we will soon have.
Another happy note, we will be sending in our Homestudy paperwork on Monday, and we got our Dossier yesterday. It is a lot of notarizing of papers and lots of typing, but I plan on being very diligent and getting it done quickly.
Sorry about the long post, but thanks for reading!! I am very tired from work today, so I'm going to rest and make some dinner.
Sunday, August 21, 2011
Recovery
Just a quick update before I fall asleep :)
I am feeling much better today as far as moving around goes. I'm still pretty slow and slumped over a little bit to compensate for the pain in standing all the way straight up, but overall, I can get off the couch much easier than before. We went to TJMaxx today and Barnes and Noble, probably for an hour total and I was really tired. It's amazing how such a small surgery can make your body so weak and so tired all the time.
I'm so thankful for Kyle and all he has done and put up with the past few days. I will miss being with him all day when we go to work tomorrow. I am a little nervous to be back tomorrow, since I'm still healing and have open wounds around my abdomen, which is the spot where most of our kiddos are. I also get very tired pretty quickly, so some prayers for tomorrow would be lovely. :)
I will say, I imagine this is somewhat like a pregnant person feels like, in getting up off a couch or a chair, and sitting down as well. You can't just plop down anymore, it's funny. Hopefully I'm preparing myself for what that will feel like.
Time to say goodnight, but I will be posting about a lovely conversation I had with my spectacular mother in law and an extremely moving documentary Kyle and I watched this evening. :)
I am feeling much better today as far as moving around goes. I'm still pretty slow and slumped over a little bit to compensate for the pain in standing all the way straight up, but overall, I can get off the couch much easier than before. We went to TJMaxx today and Barnes and Noble, probably for an hour total and I was really tired. It's amazing how such a small surgery can make your body so weak and so tired all the time.
I'm so thankful for Kyle and all he has done and put up with the past few days. I will miss being with him all day when we go to work tomorrow. I am a little nervous to be back tomorrow, since I'm still healing and have open wounds around my abdomen, which is the spot where most of our kiddos are. I also get very tired pretty quickly, so some prayers for tomorrow would be lovely. :)
I will say, I imagine this is somewhat like a pregnant person feels like, in getting up off a couch or a chair, and sitting down as well. You can't just plop down anymore, it's funny. Hopefully I'm preparing myself for what that will feel like.
Time to say goodnight, but I will be posting about a lovely conversation I had with my spectacular mother in law and an extremely moving documentary Kyle and I watched this evening. :)
Friday, August 19, 2011
Pregnancy
Once Kyle and I began this process of adoption, I really thought my feelings of jealousy and being envious of people who are pregnant would really start go away. Sadly, sometimes I feel those creeping back up, but then there are other times when I couldn't be more happy for people. It is such a weird feeling, but I feel like it's getting better day by day. I am hoping this stays true for the days to come...
As many of you know, I had surgery yesterday. I wasn't nervous going in at all, I just wanted to get it over with and move on. I was wheeled back to the surgical room and it was freezing, I started feeling woozy and was asleep until 5pm. My Dr. was wonderful, she is very sweet and explains things very well. We are very thankful for her and how easy she is to talk to. She explained to Kyle and my mom everything that she encountered during the surgery.
She went in to take care of 2 polyps, a cyst on my ovary, and to clean out a fallopian tube. She ended up finding 3 polyps that were the size of marbles, and she was able to take care of another polyp that was a pretty decent size. So in all she scraped out 4 polyps and said that I would just be one of those women who would grow polyps. She took care of the ovary and said it was healthy and we had plenty of eggs. I also had signs of endometriosis and she was pretty sure I would develop this as time goes on. My right tube was blocked and she wanted to flush that out, but that didn't happen at all. The tube will never be open, in fact it's somewhat of birth defect. The right tube is closed off completely.
At this point Kyle and I have decided that it will be fully a God thing if we get pregnant. We both want it badly of course, but we are so thankful that God has put this heart of adoption in both of us. We will both be parents in some way or another, and we can't wait for that time to come! :)
I'm still very sore today, and it's hard to get up and walk around, but Kyle is pushing me and I'm very thankful for that. I have about 4-5 punctures in my abdomen, so it's very sore. It's amazing how much you use your abdomen until there are punctures in it. Ouch!
We will be taking it very easy this weekend, and hoping I can be back to work on Monday. I was feeling very nauseous all day, so I had Kyle reschedule our fingerprints. I was really bummed, but I knew I couldn't make it. We rescheduled for Sept. Hopefully tomorrow I can finish our homestudy paperwork and feel like I did something this weekend.
Thanks for all the thoughts, prayers, and comments! They are all so appreciated! :)
As many of you know, I had surgery yesterday. I wasn't nervous going in at all, I just wanted to get it over with and move on. I was wheeled back to the surgical room and it was freezing, I started feeling woozy and was asleep until 5pm. My Dr. was wonderful, she is very sweet and explains things very well. We are very thankful for her and how easy she is to talk to. She explained to Kyle and my mom everything that she encountered during the surgery.
She went in to take care of 2 polyps, a cyst on my ovary, and to clean out a fallopian tube. She ended up finding 3 polyps that were the size of marbles, and she was able to take care of another polyp that was a pretty decent size. So in all she scraped out 4 polyps and said that I would just be one of those women who would grow polyps. She took care of the ovary and said it was healthy and we had plenty of eggs. I also had signs of endometriosis and she was pretty sure I would develop this as time goes on. My right tube was blocked and she wanted to flush that out, but that didn't happen at all. The tube will never be open, in fact it's somewhat of birth defect. The right tube is closed off completely.
At this point Kyle and I have decided that it will be fully a God thing if we get pregnant. We both want it badly of course, but we are so thankful that God has put this heart of adoption in both of us. We will both be parents in some way or another, and we can't wait for that time to come! :)
I'm still very sore today, and it's hard to get up and walk around, but Kyle is pushing me and I'm very thankful for that. I have about 4-5 punctures in my abdomen, so it's very sore. It's amazing how much you use your abdomen until there are punctures in it. Ouch!
We will be taking it very easy this weekend, and hoping I can be back to work on Monday. I was feeling very nauseous all day, so I had Kyle reschedule our fingerprints. I was really bummed, but I knew I couldn't make it. We rescheduled for Sept. Hopefully tomorrow I can finish our homestudy paperwork and feel like I did something this weekend.
Thanks for all the thoughts, prayers, and comments! They are all so appreciated! :)
Wednesday, August 17, 2011
Home Sick
Today was supposed to be a day of eating lots of food and anything I wanted, since my surgery is tomorrow. I guess like most things I plan ahead of time, it's not quite working out. I was woken by terrible stomach pain at 5:30, and for good reason. I caught a little stomach bug of some sort. I sadly had to call into work today, which I was bummed about because I wanted to say bye to my kiddos. I'm hoping it goes away soon, so I can eat something yummy today at least.
While I've been on the couch though, I have been searching around and looking at baby bedding. It makes me want to create things, and decorate, and get ready for what is going to happen. I of course send some to Kyle as well, and he likes them, but also reminds me: "Megan, it's going to be like a year babe, and if you love something we will have to get it!" haha!! He knows me too well. So I have been writing items down and just enjoying it. We already know the base color palette we are going with, so it makes it so much fun.
I think I will agree with him and know that it is too early to decorate, but a girl can always look right?! :)
While I've been on the couch though, I have been searching around and looking at baby bedding. It makes me want to create things, and decorate, and get ready for what is going to happen. I of course send some to Kyle as well, and he likes them, but also reminds me: "Megan, it's going to be like a year babe, and if you love something we will have to get it!" haha!! He knows me too well. So I have been writing items down and just enjoying it. We already know the base color palette we are going with, so it makes it so much fun.
I think I will agree with him and know that it is too early to decorate, but a girl can always look right?! :)
Tuesday, August 16, 2011
Big Day
Today Kyle scanned all of our paper work so that we can have a copy of our paperwork and we are sending in our official application to IAN tomorrow. I am so excited to get that in and be finished with it. :) We will then get our dossier, so I can start working on that soon too. I am almost finished filling out our homestudy paperwork, which is part of the dossier, so it's kind of nice to have a little headway on that. I am hoping to finish that while I'm recovering on Friday and the weekend.
My surgery is in two days.... I'm not feeling too nervous, but there are parts bothering me: I can't eat past midnight on Wed. and my surgery isn't until 1pm and I am breakfast eater. I'm also really hating the thought of an IV, I don't usually get bothered by needles and such, but almost every IV I have had has hurt so badly, lets hope for some better luck on Thursday. The surgery should last about 1.5 hours and then the same amount of time for recovery, so it will be a long day to say the least.
I plan on eating as much as possible tomorrow :) I will also be cooking some things to put in the fridge, so that Kyle doesn't have to cook for himself or go out and buy food every night. I'm also making Oreo Truffles tomorrow... they are so yummy!! (They are for a friend, but I made some to test out this weekend, delish!)
Well, have a great week and I will post how everything went this weekend sometime.
My surgery is in two days.... I'm not feeling too nervous, but there are parts bothering me: I can't eat past midnight on Wed. and my surgery isn't until 1pm and I am breakfast eater. I'm also really hating the thought of an IV, I don't usually get bothered by needles and such, but almost every IV I have had has hurt so badly, lets hope for some better luck on Thursday. The surgery should last about 1.5 hours and then the same amount of time for recovery, so it will be a long day to say the least.
I plan on eating as much as possible tomorrow :) I will also be cooking some things to put in the fridge, so that Kyle doesn't have to cook for himself or go out and buy food every night. I'm also making Oreo Truffles tomorrow... they are so yummy!! (They are for a friend, but I made some to test out this weekend, delish!)
Well, have a great week and I will post how everything went this weekend sometime.
Thursday, August 11, 2011
Thankful Thursday
A couple things I am thankful for today:
* Thankful that God has put adoption on Kyle and I's heart, we truly feel blessed to have that wired in us.
* Thankful for Kyle in all of this, he has been my rock.
* Thankful for a loving, caring, and encouraging family as we head down this path.
* Thankful that Kyle and I both have good jobs.
* Thankful for the weather right now... It has been beautiful and I wish it could stay like this.
* Thankful for the mother who will be bearing our child, but loving her child enough to do what's best for them.
* Thankful for all the support from everyone.
Thanks so much everyone!! I hope you all have a wonderful day and weekend!
* Thankful that God has put adoption on Kyle and I's heart, we truly feel blessed to have that wired in us.
* Thankful for Kyle in all of this, he has been my rock.
* Thankful for a loving, caring, and encouraging family as we head down this path.
* Thankful that Kyle and I both have good jobs.
* Thankful for the weather right now... It has been beautiful and I wish it could stay like this.
* Thankful for the mother who will be bearing our child, but loving her child enough to do what's best for them.
* Thankful for all the support from everyone.
Thanks so much everyone!! I hope you all have a wonderful day and weekend!
Monday, August 8, 2011
Paperwork and Crafts
Well my once a week, didn't quite make it, but I was of course busy again last week. Not like the week before, but this weekend I went to Ohio to visit my amazing grandma with my mom. We went up to Lake Erie on Friday evening after I got off work. My mom and I talked and giggled almost the entire way up. Once we got into my grandmas, we stayed up until 12:30. Way past all of our bed times, but we had a great time catching up. Saturday and Sunday were just as wonderful, we made memories, laughed, cried, and talked about everything under the sun. I love the memories I have my grandma and I will hopefully never forget them. On Saturday at one point, she said, how fun is it going to be have a little kid running around here soon. :)
Of course the "soon" part isn't exactly a reality, but it will come more quickly than slowly I think. As I was finishing up our second application process through IAN (International Adoption Net) I had a couple questions, so I gave our placement coordinator a call. IAN has some amazing staff, and I never feel guilty giving them a call for a simple question. As we were talking, she was informing me that as soon as we send in our second application and we get our dossier, it could take as little as 6-8 weeks to get on the list. I was so surprised by this and so excited! We would still have to get some paper work through USCIS, that takes 8-10 weeks before we could get a referral, which is saying we have been matched with a baby, but the list for boys is 9 months and girls is 12. So we aren't too worried about not having that paperwork finished by the time we are added to list. As I said in an earlier post I thought this would take a couple months before we could get it finished and be on the list for a baby girl or boy age 0-24 months. So I was beyond excited to hear of this news.
Part of the dossier is our homestudy, so I have been filling out that paperwork as well, talk about overwhelming. :/ It will be worth it in the end for sure, but boy is it a lot of information!? Our homestudy will be done out of Indianapolis and they have to come to our house 3 times, at least one week apart. We have to get finger prints, background checks, and even CPS checks, it's a lot to do, but again will be so worth it. I'm going to try to schedule our fingerprints the day after my surgery, depending on how I feel. That way I have the day off already and it can be the one thing I do all day, and not have to take an extra day off.
Almost every night I have been working on paper work, asking Kyle, his family and my family a million questions.. thanks for being so sweet guys!! :) I have to pull myself away from the paperwork some nights, but then I go upstairs and lay in bed thinking about the paperwork and things that I could be doing to bring in a little extra money. This of course is an expensive process, and I love to do crafts and bake so I thought maybe if I do some of that on the side, it could help a little bit.
Here is what I like to do: make greeting cards, invitations, thank yous, or holiday cards. My mom is being really sweet and donating some cards and her time and resources to sell some cards as well. I recently got into making cake pops, it is very time consuming, but if I know enough in advance, it can be a pretty easy process. I have also been getting into knitting hats. I've mostly been making baby hats, but I have at least tried up to 3 sizes. My next goal is to try out scarves, so I can make some sets. I also made a couple of picture frame designs for some friends at work, but I have lots of paper and ideas I want to try out. Like for holidays, families, children's room. Diaper cakes are also something I love to do. I don't have any pictures because my phone erased all my pictures, but they are really cute and easy.
If any of that sounds like something anyone would be interested in, just let me know and we could get in contact. I'm going to post some pictures at the bottom to give you some ideas of what I'm talking about. You can leave a comment, message me on facebook or email me at: mchaffee12@gmail.com
I'm finding this process to be fun and exciting, but also very tiring. Which I guess is a great lead up to what life will probably be like with a child :)
Of course the "soon" part isn't exactly a reality, but it will come more quickly than slowly I think. As I was finishing up our second application process through IAN (International Adoption Net) I had a couple questions, so I gave our placement coordinator a call. IAN has some amazing staff, and I never feel guilty giving them a call for a simple question. As we were talking, she was informing me that as soon as we send in our second application and we get our dossier, it could take as little as 6-8 weeks to get on the list. I was so surprised by this and so excited! We would still have to get some paper work through USCIS, that takes 8-10 weeks before we could get a referral, which is saying we have been matched with a baby, but the list for boys is 9 months and girls is 12. So we aren't too worried about not having that paperwork finished by the time we are added to list. As I said in an earlier post I thought this would take a couple months before we could get it finished and be on the list for a baby girl or boy age 0-24 months. So I was beyond excited to hear of this news.
Part of the dossier is our homestudy, so I have been filling out that paperwork as well, talk about overwhelming. :/ It will be worth it in the end for sure, but boy is it a lot of information!? Our homestudy will be done out of Indianapolis and they have to come to our house 3 times, at least one week apart. We have to get finger prints, background checks, and even CPS checks, it's a lot to do, but again will be so worth it. I'm going to try to schedule our fingerprints the day after my surgery, depending on how I feel. That way I have the day off already and it can be the one thing I do all day, and not have to take an extra day off.
Almost every night I have been working on paper work, asking Kyle, his family and my family a million questions.. thanks for being so sweet guys!! :) I have to pull myself away from the paperwork some nights, but then I go upstairs and lay in bed thinking about the paperwork and things that I could be doing to bring in a little extra money. This of course is an expensive process, and I love to do crafts and bake so I thought maybe if I do some of that on the side, it could help a little bit.
Here is what I like to do: make greeting cards, invitations, thank yous, or holiday cards. My mom is being really sweet and donating some cards and her time and resources to sell some cards as well. I recently got into making cake pops, it is very time consuming, but if I know enough in advance, it can be a pretty easy process. I have also been getting into knitting hats. I've mostly been making baby hats, but I have at least tried up to 3 sizes. My next goal is to try out scarves, so I can make some sets. I also made a couple of picture frame designs for some friends at work, but I have lots of paper and ideas I want to try out. Like for holidays, families, children's room. Diaper cakes are also something I love to do. I don't have any pictures because my phone erased all my pictures, but they are really cute and easy.
If any of that sounds like something anyone would be interested in, just let me know and we could get in contact. I'm going to post some pictures at the bottom to give you some ideas of what I'm talking about. You can leave a comment, message me on facebook or email me at: mchaffee12@gmail.com
I'm finding this process to be fun and exciting, but also very tiring. Which I guess is a great lead up to what life will probably be like with a child :)
Thursday, July 28, 2011
The Little Things in Life
I know I said I would update the day after my first post, but we have been so busy. We had small group this week, and we had dinner with Kyle's sister and her husband last night. Lyndie and Dave are their names and they have two boys who we just adore. Dave and Lyndie were very generous and gave us a donation to begin this process and we couldn't more thankful for them and their beautiful hearts. We can't wait to bring home our baby and meet their cousins and add another addition to our family. Thanks so much Dave and Lyndie, we love you guys so much and we appreciate your support in so many ways.
We have gotten so many messages, texts, and comments and I was just blown away by how supportive everyone seems. We feel so blessed to know so many of you and we are excited to have you guys follow our journey. Anytime you have questions or just want to chat, feel free to email, leave a comment, or message us on facebook. What great resources we have now. :)
Today I checked the mail, and dreaded the bill that I knew was coming our way. Our insurance company won't cover anything under infertility and we knew that going into our process of going to the Dr. but we wanted to make sure everything was okay. Which, I'm glad we did, because we now know what was going on. Anyway, I was expecting a huge bill, and it turned out to be shockingly cheap. I was truly amazed by how much our insurance company ended up covering... another way God is showing up and blessing us. For so long I thought God was against us having children, but with all these small things popping up, I can tell that God just wanted me especially to give it to Him and really go after our adoption now. He is opening so many doors and blessing us in ways I never thought possible.
My mom has been so interested and emotional since we told her about our decision and has been so sweet. She is constantly offering us help, which will be hard because everything we need is stuff only we can do, but she offered to clean our house or do whatever I needed. How sweet?! She is great! Along with mothers, my mother-in-law has been amazing and giving us so much advice on this process since she and her husband have been through it twice themselves. What a great resource and helpful guide. We are surrounded by such an amazing immediate family and extended family, and our friends. We are so lucky.
My dad has been very supportive as well. Often times I think men don't get it and can't understand how women feel, but my dad has been great through this. He understands how we are feeling and I truly know that he supports our decision, but I don't think he has given up on us having our own children and I love that.
We are really enjoying the little things in life right now and couldn't be more thankful for them. There are so many times I'm looking for a big event to happen, or a big sign, but I am learning it's the little things that add up and reassure me when I'm scared or have so many questions.
There will probably be some words and parts of the process that some people don't understand so I thought I would try to give a little info on that stuff:
Right now we are filling out another application for our adoption agency. It asks all kinds of questions, and is about 50 or so pages long. We have a lot of reading and signing, and filling out forms to do. Once we are finished with that, we have to send in half of our agency fee to the adoption agency and we get our dossier. A dossier is: a file containing detailed records on a particular person or subject. It is pronounced dah-see-a. That will be tons of paperwork on our end. It will entail our home-study. When someone from another agency comes to our house and asks us questions, checks out our home to make sure we can have kids and its a safe environment for a child. We will get fingerprints, things notarized, things sent to the state of Indiana, even things that need to be put through the US capital. It can be a long process or it can be a decently short process. It all depends on quickly we do the paperwork and stay on top of things. My mother-in-law has heard of it being finished in as little 3 months, so that will be my goal :) All of the information from our dossier will then be sent to Ethiopia and then we wait. Which I'm imagining will be the longest months of our lives, but so so worth it. Once we get matched with a baby, we will then wait to find out our court date. When we have our court date, we will buy tickets to go to Ethiopia for the first time. We will have to go to court to make sure we will get approved on Ethiopia's side. We will come home and wait some more :) Once we are approved, we will have little time to know when we go back to pick up our baby. Again, so worth the wait!! Between that time, we will hopefully have a picture or two, medical history, and some information on our new little bundle of joy. What a process?! It will be long and tiring and will probably seem like an eternity but we know that God is to going show up big in this journey and we are very excited to see what this brings.
Thank you for all your support, comments, and prayers. I am now off to do some paperwork and to have dinner with some great friends tonight. This week has been and will be full of meeting up with friends and catching up and filling them in on what's going in our lives and listening to theirs as well.
Happy almost Friday :)
We have gotten so many messages, texts, and comments and I was just blown away by how supportive everyone seems. We feel so blessed to know so many of you and we are excited to have you guys follow our journey. Anytime you have questions or just want to chat, feel free to email, leave a comment, or message us on facebook. What great resources we have now. :)
Today I checked the mail, and dreaded the bill that I knew was coming our way. Our insurance company won't cover anything under infertility and we knew that going into our process of going to the Dr. but we wanted to make sure everything was okay. Which, I'm glad we did, because we now know what was going on. Anyway, I was expecting a huge bill, and it turned out to be shockingly cheap. I was truly amazed by how much our insurance company ended up covering... another way God is showing up and blessing us. For so long I thought God was against us having children, but with all these small things popping up, I can tell that God just wanted me especially to give it to Him and really go after our adoption now. He is opening so many doors and blessing us in ways I never thought possible.
My mom has been so interested and emotional since we told her about our decision and has been so sweet. She is constantly offering us help, which will be hard because everything we need is stuff only we can do, but she offered to clean our house or do whatever I needed. How sweet?! She is great! Along with mothers, my mother-in-law has been amazing and giving us so much advice on this process since she and her husband have been through it twice themselves. What a great resource and helpful guide. We are surrounded by such an amazing immediate family and extended family, and our friends. We are so lucky.
My dad has been very supportive as well. Often times I think men don't get it and can't understand how women feel, but my dad has been great through this. He understands how we are feeling and I truly know that he supports our decision, but I don't think he has given up on us having our own children and I love that.
We are really enjoying the little things in life right now and couldn't be more thankful for them. There are so many times I'm looking for a big event to happen, or a big sign, but I am learning it's the little things that add up and reassure me when I'm scared or have so many questions.
There will probably be some words and parts of the process that some people don't understand so I thought I would try to give a little info on that stuff:
Right now we are filling out another application for our adoption agency. It asks all kinds of questions, and is about 50 or so pages long. We have a lot of reading and signing, and filling out forms to do. Once we are finished with that, we have to send in half of our agency fee to the adoption agency and we get our dossier. A dossier is: a file containing detailed records on a particular person or subject. It is pronounced dah-see-a. That will be tons of paperwork on our end. It will entail our home-study. When someone from another agency comes to our house and asks us questions, checks out our home to make sure we can have kids and its a safe environment for a child. We will get fingerprints, things notarized, things sent to the state of Indiana, even things that need to be put through the US capital. It can be a long process or it can be a decently short process. It all depends on quickly we do the paperwork and stay on top of things. My mother-in-law has heard of it being finished in as little 3 months, so that will be my goal :) All of the information from our dossier will then be sent to Ethiopia and then we wait. Which I'm imagining will be the longest months of our lives, but so so worth it. Once we get matched with a baby, we will then wait to find out our court date. When we have our court date, we will buy tickets to go to Ethiopia for the first time. We will have to go to court to make sure we will get approved on Ethiopia's side. We will come home and wait some more :) Once we are approved, we will have little time to know when we go back to pick up our baby. Again, so worth the wait!! Between that time, we will hopefully have a picture or two, medical history, and some information on our new little bundle of joy. What a process?! It will be long and tiring and will probably seem like an eternity but we know that God is to going show up big in this journey and we are very excited to see what this brings.
Thank you for all your support, comments, and prayers. I am now off to do some paperwork and to have dinner with some great friends tonight. This week has been and will be full of meeting up with friends and catching up and filling them in on what's going in our lives and listening to theirs as well.
Happy almost Friday :)
Monday, July 25, 2011
A New Chapter
Hello All!
I am starting a blog with a new chapter in life. Kyle and I plan to keep everyone updated on what is going on with our lives, and what new adventures we will be entailing so soon.
The fairy tale story is to get married, have children, and live happily ever after, but for some reason that doesn't always happen. Although Kyle and I have the fairy tale world of marriage, the children part is not as much of a fairy tale as we suspected. We have always known we wanted kids, our plan was 2 of our own, and adopt 2 when we could. Simple enough, or so we thought. After trying for a year, we were sent to a fertility specialist, with of course the fear of finding out we wouldn't be able to have our own children. Our first meeting never indicated that, but our Dr. wanted to run some tests. The time came, Thursday July 21st, we went in for testing, mostly on my end though. I had an HSG, I won't go into the details of that, but lets hope you don't have to do one, it wasn't fun and somewhat painful. Anyway, the results were not what the Dr. was wanting to see. So we went upstairs for an ultrasound to get a better picture of what was going, or lack there of. The results: I had one open tube, with an ovary that was 75% blocked in some way, one tube that was blocked with a great ovary (which doesn't do much good when the tube is blocked), and I have about 3 cysts/fybroids that she was concerned about. I have to have surgery on Aug. 18th to clear all of this stuff. We never heard the words, you won't be able to conceive, and we are very aware of this, but it will be a long road and because insurance doesn't cover any type of infertility treatments, we began the investigation of adoption.
Like I said, we have always wanted to do this, so there have been many a times where I was on the computer looking at countries in need, the requirements, etc. I was usually discouraged, because a lot of countries are 30 or older. After some research we found out the Ethiopia you only have to be 25. :) YAY!!! So, we looked into multiple agencies and talked with some people, and we sent in our initial application last night. It said the wait was about 48 hours, not even close!! We were accepted in less than 24 hours. As of right now, we are going through IAN adoption agency. It is based out of Colorado, but will do across the US. We didn't put a gender preference on a child, because quite frankly we don't care, we just want to give a child a home. We have however put an age, and we would like a baby. It seems a little selfish at times, but if for some reason we can't have our own, we would love the experience of a baby and just being there for the child for almost their whole life.
Right now, we have some more paperwork to fill out about ourselves and then we will send in half of our fee for the adoption agency. We are both very excited, and Kyle is a little nervous about the process, which I don't blame him, but I am just beside myself right now. There will be stressful times for sure that will be coming up and we are very aware of this, but we also know that God will provide financially and spiritually as we go along this journey. It has seemed like God has closed a couple doors, but God is also opening up so many at the same time. He will not give us more than we can handle, and I am so excited about this journey. We truly couldn't do it without the support of our family and friends. We will do our best to keep everyone up to date as to what is going on and when. I will update tomorrow about the process and how long the process could take and things of that nature. Keep checking in, and hopefully we will have more news soon.
God Bless,
Megan and Kyle
I am starting a blog with a new chapter in life. Kyle and I plan to keep everyone updated on what is going on with our lives, and what new adventures we will be entailing so soon.
The fairy tale story is to get married, have children, and live happily ever after, but for some reason that doesn't always happen. Although Kyle and I have the fairy tale world of marriage, the children part is not as much of a fairy tale as we suspected. We have always known we wanted kids, our plan was 2 of our own, and adopt 2 when we could. Simple enough, or so we thought. After trying for a year, we were sent to a fertility specialist, with of course the fear of finding out we wouldn't be able to have our own children. Our first meeting never indicated that, but our Dr. wanted to run some tests. The time came, Thursday July 21st, we went in for testing, mostly on my end though. I had an HSG, I won't go into the details of that, but lets hope you don't have to do one, it wasn't fun and somewhat painful. Anyway, the results were not what the Dr. was wanting to see. So we went upstairs for an ultrasound to get a better picture of what was going, or lack there of. The results: I had one open tube, with an ovary that was 75% blocked in some way, one tube that was blocked with a great ovary (which doesn't do much good when the tube is blocked), and I have about 3 cysts/fybroids that she was concerned about. I have to have surgery on Aug. 18th to clear all of this stuff. We never heard the words, you won't be able to conceive, and we are very aware of this, but it will be a long road and because insurance doesn't cover any type of infertility treatments, we began the investigation of adoption.
Like I said, we have always wanted to do this, so there have been many a times where I was on the computer looking at countries in need, the requirements, etc. I was usually discouraged, because a lot of countries are 30 or older. After some research we found out the Ethiopia you only have to be 25. :) YAY!!! So, we looked into multiple agencies and talked with some people, and we sent in our initial application last night. It said the wait was about 48 hours, not even close!! We were accepted in less than 24 hours. As of right now, we are going through IAN adoption agency. It is based out of Colorado, but will do across the US. We didn't put a gender preference on a child, because quite frankly we don't care, we just want to give a child a home. We have however put an age, and we would like a baby. It seems a little selfish at times, but if for some reason we can't have our own, we would love the experience of a baby and just being there for the child for almost their whole life.
Right now, we have some more paperwork to fill out about ourselves and then we will send in half of our fee for the adoption agency. We are both very excited, and Kyle is a little nervous about the process, which I don't blame him, but I am just beside myself right now. There will be stressful times for sure that will be coming up and we are very aware of this, but we also know that God will provide financially and spiritually as we go along this journey. It has seemed like God has closed a couple doors, but God is also opening up so many at the same time. He will not give us more than we can handle, and I am so excited about this journey. We truly couldn't do it without the support of our family and friends. We will do our best to keep everyone up to date as to what is going on and when. I will update tomorrow about the process and how long the process could take and things of that nature. Keep checking in, and hopefully we will have more news soon.
God Bless,
Megan and Kyle
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