The Little Things in Life

I know I said I would update the day after my first post, but we have been so busy. We had small group this week, and we had dinner with Kyle's sister and her husband last night. Lyndie and Dave are their names and they have two boys who we just adore. Dave and Lyndie were very generous and gave us a donation to begin this process and we couldn't more thankful for them and their beautiful hearts. We can't wait to bring home our baby and meet their cousins and add another addition to our family. Thanks so much Dave and Lyndie, we love you guys so much and we appreciate your support in so many ways.

We have gotten so many messages, texts, and comments and I was just blown away by how supportive everyone seems. We feel so blessed to know so many of you and we are excited to have you guys follow our journey. Anytime you have questions or just want to chat, feel free to email, leave a comment, or message us on facebook. What great resources we have now. :)

Today I checked the mail, and dreaded the bill that I knew was coming our way. Our insurance company won't cover anything under infertility and we knew that going into our process of going to the Dr. but we wanted to make sure everything was okay. Which, I'm glad we did, because we now know what was going on. Anyway, I was expecting a huge bill, and it turned out to be shockingly cheap. I was truly amazed by how much our insurance company ended up covering... another way God is showing up and blessing us. For so long I thought God was against us having children, but with all these small things popping up, I can tell that God just wanted me especially to give it to Him and really go after our adoption now. He is opening so many doors and blessing us in ways I never thought possible.

My mom has been so interested and emotional since we told her about our decision and has been so sweet. She is constantly offering us help, which will be hard because everything we need is stuff only we can do, but she offered to clean our house or do whatever I needed. How sweet?! She is great! Along with mothers, my mother-in-law has been amazing and giving us so much advice on this process since she and her husband have been through it twice themselves. What a great resource and helpful guide. We are surrounded by such an amazing immediate family and extended family, and our friends. We are so lucky.

My dad has been very supportive as well. Often times I think men don't get it and can't understand how women feel, but my dad has been great through this.  He understands how we are feeling and I truly know that he supports our decision, but I don't think he has given up on us having our own children and I love that.

We are really enjoying the little things in life right now and couldn't be more thankful for them. There are so many times I'm looking for a big event to happen, or a big sign, but I am learning it's the little things that add up and reassure me when I'm scared or have so many questions.

There will probably be some words and parts of the process that some people don't understand so I thought I would try to give a little info on that stuff:
Right now we are filling out another application for our adoption agency. It asks all kinds of questions, and is about 50 or so pages long. We have a lot of reading and signing, and filling out forms to do. Once we are finished with that, we have to send in half of our agency fee to the adoption agency and we get our dossier. A dossier is: a file containing detailed records on a particular person or subject. It is pronounced dah-see-a. That will be tons of paperwork on our end. It will entail our home-study. When someone from another agency comes to our house and asks us questions, checks out our home to make sure we can have kids and its a safe environment for a child. We will get fingerprints, things notarized, things sent to the state of Indiana, even things that need to be put through the US capital. It can be a long process or it can be a decently short process. It all depends on quickly we do the paperwork and stay on top of things. My mother-in-law has heard of it being finished in as little 3 months, so that will be my goal :) All of the information from our dossier will then be sent to Ethiopia and then we wait. Which I'm imagining will be the longest months of our lives, but so so worth it. Once we get matched with a baby, we will then wait to find out our court date. When we have our court date, we will buy tickets to go to Ethiopia for the first time. We will have to go to court to make sure we will get approved on Ethiopia's side. We will come home and wait some more :) Once we are approved, we will have little time to know when we go back to pick up our baby. Again, so worth the wait!! Between that time, we will hopefully have a picture or two,  medical history, and some information on our new little bundle of joy. What a process?! It will be long and tiring and will probably seem like an eternity but we know that God is to going show up big in this journey and we are very excited to see what this brings.


Thank you for all your support, comments, and prayers. I am now off to do some paperwork and to have dinner with some great friends tonight. This week has been and will be full of meeting up with friends and catching up and filling them in on what's going in our lives and listening to theirs as well. 


Happy almost Friday :)

A New Chapter

Hello All!

I am starting a blog with a new chapter in life. Kyle and I plan to keep everyone updated on what is going on with our lives, and what new adventures we will be entailing so soon.

The fairy tale story is to get married, have children, and live happily ever after, but for some reason that doesn't always happen. Although Kyle and I have the fairy tale world of marriage, the children part is not as much of a fairy tale as we suspected. We have always known we wanted kids, our plan was 2 of our own, and adopt 2 when we could. Simple enough, or so we thought. After trying for a year, we were sent to a fertility specialist, with of course the fear of finding out we wouldn't be able to have our own children. Our first meeting never indicated that, but our Dr. wanted to run some tests. The time came, Thursday July 21st, we went in for testing, mostly on my end though. I had an HSG, I won't go into the details of that, but lets hope you don't have to do one, it wasn't fun and somewhat painful. Anyway, the results were not what the Dr. was wanting to see. So we went upstairs for an ultrasound to get a better picture of what was going, or lack there of. The results: I had one open tube, with an ovary that was 75% blocked in some way, one tube that was blocked with a great ovary (which doesn't do much good when the tube is blocked), and I have about 3 cysts/fybroids that she was concerned about. I have to have surgery on Aug. 18th to clear all of this stuff. We never heard the words, you won't be able to conceive, and we are very aware of this, but it will be a long road and because insurance doesn't cover any type of infertility treatments, we began the investigation of adoption.

Like I said, we have always wanted to do this, so there have been many a times where I was on the computer looking at countries in need, the requirements, etc. I was usually discouraged, because a lot of countries are 30 or older. After some research we found out the Ethiopia you only have to be 25. :) YAY!!!  So, we looked into multiple agencies and talked with some people, and we sent in our initial application last night. It said the wait was about 48 hours, not even close!! We were accepted in less than 24 hours. As of right now, we are going through IAN adoption agency. It is based out of Colorado, but will do across the US. We didn't put a gender preference on a child, because quite frankly we don't care, we just want to give a child a home. We have however put an age, and we would like a baby. It seems a little selfish at times, but if for some reason we can't have our own, we would love the experience of a baby and just being there for the child for almost their whole life.

Right now, we have some more paperwork to fill out about ourselves and then we will send in half of our fee for the adoption agency. We are both very excited, and Kyle is a little nervous about the process, which I don't blame him, but I am just beside myself right now. There will be stressful times for sure that will be coming up and we are very aware of this, but we also know that God will provide financially and spiritually as we go along this journey. It has seemed like God has closed a couple doors, but God is also opening up so many at the same time. He will not give us more than we can handle, and I am so excited about this journey. We truly couldn't do it without the support of our family and friends. We will do our best to keep everyone up to date as to what is going on and when. I will update tomorrow about the process and how long the process could take and things of that nature. Keep checking in, and hopefully we will have more news soon.

God Bless,
Megan and Kyle